Grateful YinKitten

So... yea, some things that weren't supposed to happen happened today, on top of being quite ill and all... (Actually, it only started to get really bad around 10:40 this evening, a little more than an hour ago, after everything else had died down).

I really do need to say this though.

A lot of people have really distorted conceptions about D/s relationships, and it's time that's cleared up, because it's been on my mind.

First of all, people all have different things that they are looking for, I understand that. I understand that different people get off on different things, and for instance one submissive may love her Dominant to be strict and sinister, while another submissive just wants to feel secured to a person, and controlled, without having to worry about ever being harmed.

The main thing that must be present in a relationship, any relationship, but ESPECIALLY a D/s relationship is trust. If there is no trust in a D/s relationship, there cannot be a power exchange of any kind, and there cannot be a very longterm period.

Speaking from the point of view of a submissive who has had a few Dom(me)s in the past, I can wholeheartedly and honestly say that I have never felt so good about a D/s relationship before I was Yang's.

The reason, I've realised, is not because I'm hypnotised into believing that he's the Earth, Moon, and stars above (though I do think he's just about the best thing that's ever happened to me--on my own, I might add, not everything in my head is his doing). It's the fact that I submitted to him because I love him and trust him, as opposed to loving and trusting someone because I feel obligated to because that person "owns" me.

This said, for all the submissives out there, or curious people passing through, it is absolutely NECESSARY, and of the utmost importance when searching for a partner, to find a Dom(me) who you know for a fact is as concerned about your safety, wellbeing and pleasure as he or she is with his or her own.

The absolute WORST thing you can do is to find a Dom(me) who ONLY cares about what they want, and will stop at nothing to get it... you may not believe there are such people out there, but believe me, some people are, and I quote, "such unbelievable cocks"... and will take what they want from whom they want without a care for what damage it might do, or what the situation might be. >.>

In D/s relationship, the submissive sets the limits. It is nice to test the limits, and with time push the limits bit by bit, but a Dominant is only a good keeper if he or she lets it evolve at the submissives pace.

What does this long rant have to do with anything?

It's more like a long, drawn out, round-about thank you note to Master Yang, for letting me come out of my shell and come to terms with myself at my own pace, for always putting me as a person before me as a submissive, and for putting up with my absolute brat of a self, life does seem to be tough, doesn't it Master? ^^ Besides, you DO ultimately give me what I want, no matter how much I moan and groan about all your hypnosis deprivation. <3

With the above rubric in mind, my sexy Master Yang has not only sent me head over heels for the most fantastic man in the universe, but has me so tightly wound around his baby finger, that I neither have any hope, or any will to come undone anytime soon.

I love you, Master Yang. Thank you.

((Oh, and to my dear friends Michael and Mirehn~ I thousand thank yous to you too, for helping me out this evening, I was having a rough time, and I'm sure I was quite stubborn and difficult about the whole thing, but your company was greatly appreciated as well.))